Going through a relationship breakdown can be one of the most difficult things to deal with, no matter who you are.
No doubt you may be very emotional and need support from friends and family. You may also need to start unravelling your lives together, especially if there is jointly owned property to be dealt with or if you have children together. But where do you start?
Process of a separation
We would always recommend getting some advice from a family law solicitor, who can give you advice tailored to your unique circumstances. We say 'unique' because every separation is different. They involve different families, different assets and different priorities. One of the biggest mistakes we come across is where a client has been given well-intended advice from friends and family who have perhaps been through their own relationship breakdown. This can lead to a client having unrealistic expectations of what the outcome will be in their own case.
Unreasonable financial expectations
Just because your friend was able to get spousal maintenance or keep a jointly-owned property, doesn’t mean you will. Every family law case turns on its own facts. For example, spousal maintenance is only likely to be payable if you can show you need it AND if your ex can afford to pay it.
You may have a family member who was able to retain all of the assets in their divorce. That doesn’t mean the same outcome will apply to you.
Their ex may have agreed to be more generous than usual if they felt guilty, or if they wanted to avoid any children having to go through even more upheaval. Your ex might not feel the same.
Family law solicitors give you the real picture
The danger of taking advice from friends and family, or comparing two different cases, is that you can end up having unrealistic expectations. If you choose not to obtain legal advice from a solicitor, this could result in you having a nasty shock during a court hearing and being told by a judge that you are wrong.
The best option is to get proper advice from a qualified family law specialist.
You’ll have a much better understanding of what your future may look like and you can then start making informed decisions.
We offer a free 30-minute initial appointment with a qualified family law solicitor. All of our family law solicitors have the knowledge and experience to guide you through this difficult phase.
Contact us today to arrange an appointment and start moving forward with your life.